Everyone has to force himself to grow

Yesterday, I went shopping with my friend Yuzu and talked about some of her current problems.

Grapefruit is a person who is not very good at communication. At work, she seldom took the initiative to communicate with her own judges. Every time she just silently completed the task of confession, no communication. In training, she went to the lecture. She had questions and asked questions. They all organized the language in their minds. There are not many people on the scene, but she has no courage to speak.

The troubles of grapefruit remind me of a senior, Miss Zhang.

Ms. Zhang is the manager of a company. She is less than forty, financially free, and has a good fund. Real estate buys the US emperor. In the theater of hundreds of people to share, she talks and laughs, calm and contented, a pair of easy-to-follow look.

She said to us: "Whenever and wherever, you have to find ways to let others remember you, and it is best to never forget you."

I was touched by this sentence - at the time, I was always looking for ways to improve my sense of existence. Although I didn't dare to raise my hand at that time, I still forced myself to ask her: "Some people are not good at expressing themselves. What should I do?"

Miss Zhang heard the words and told us her story.

In fact, she is not a person who is born to love performance, and her personality is more introverted. In the first few years of her work, she didn't like the limelight. When she thought of the feeling of being focused by everyone, her heart was full of tension and tension. She rarely expresses her own opinions, so she has a very low presence.

Once, she and her peer Xiao Ke got acquainted with the business relationship.

She and Xiao Ke said: "Actually, we participated in a training together a year ago."

Xiao Ke looked confused and tried to recall it. He still said frankly that he could not remember.

Miss Zhang is a little lost in her heart.

She suddenly realized that she had been working in place for two or three years, because she never “forced herself” to perform in public – you never expressed opinions, others would not know what you think; you never speak. When you ask questions, others will ignore your existence.

No one will pay attention to you, no one will praise you, no one will envy you - no one will notice you.

You have been forgotten, even if you have been working for two or three years, in the eyes of everyone is just a transparent person.

Miss Zhang’s company is a multinational company, and often has to hold teleconferences. She had never spoken too much before every meeting. Usually after the representative of the headquarters has finished speaking, I ask if there are any questions that are unclear. Representatives from the other seven countries will ask questions in turn. Finally, the headquarters asked, does the Chinese have any opinions?

At this time, the question was almost completely asked by other people, Miss Zhang can only say "nothing."

Not willing to be so silent forever, Miss Zhang made up her mind to force herself to change.

She secretly set a task for herself - every video conference, I must grab the first question, even if I just ask "Can XXX be explained again?"

From the beginning of the scalp numb, and then more and more natural and smooth, Miss Zhang gradually liked the feeling of positive expression.

At first, she was worried that her questions would be level and jokes. However, she later discovered that if she forced herself to ask questions, she would subconsciously listen and think more seriously. The questions finally asked are often of great quality.

Because she forced herself to express herself, in the eyes of her colleagues, she gradually grew into a business backbone of “very thoughtful” and “very insightful” from the small transparency of “Ah, I think, she is not bad.”

Sometimes people want to force themselves to grow.

Ms. Zhang’s advice to young people is to always choose a party that is not stable. If you are hesitant about your life, go to the fierce side. Force yourself to leave the comfort zone and you can grow quickly.

When it comes to what kind of career to choose, Miss Zhang even joked: "Don't choose your parents to let you choose the job."

For example, she did not listen to her parents' words, tried to find an iron rice bowl in the local area, and did a constant and unattractive job. Instead, she chose to enter a highly competitive foreign company, forcing herself to learn quickly and learn while using it. Every day, I am forcing myself to meet the challenge. Every day I break through myself, surpass myself, and grow up every day.

Mr. Dong, the general manager of a brand's Asia Pacific region, has similar experience.

Mr. Dong’s turning point in life happened at the age of 34.

Before that, he was just a small screw in a huge group, and his salary was barely enough to supply his wife and just-born children.

In 2000, the company wanted to send out headquarters staff to open up blank markets such as the Middle East and Africa. At that time, in addition to Mr. Dong, there were several colleagues who were similar to his qualifications.

Several candidates, including Mr. Dong, are hesitant. Although the expatriate is a springboard for promotion and salary increase, it means that they have to leave their homes and go east and west in a strange country. They are also constantly under pressure to open up the market.

Several other people finally chose to give up this opportunity, and Mr. Dong decided to force himself to launch himself into the comfort zone and embark on the road of expatriation.

At that time, the company did not give him a pawn, he was only responsible for himself, and he went to Arabia with his luggage.

After seven years of assignment, he flew around, so that when he woke up in the morning, he would not know where he was.

He is doing marketing in India, running a roadshow, renting three trucks, letting users go to the truck to experience the products, and if they feel good, use trucks to carry them to nearby stores to buy. In this way, he personally followed the truck and ran a full eighty-one cities in India.

During these seven years, he helped the company open markets in countries such as the United Arab Emirates, Iran, Israel, Kazakhstan, Uzbekistan and other countries.

After returning to China, he became the general manager of the company's Asia Pacific region and was convinced.

In poverty-stricken India and Dubai, who is drunk, he has experienced hardships and endured loneliness under various great cultural differences. There is also a retreat, but he "forced" himself to persevere, continue to blame, open up the land.

Don't force yourself, you never know how good you are; don't force yourself, you never know how much potential you have.

A lot of "excellence" is so forced out. Force yourself not to be lazy, not timid, not allowed to retreat, forcing yourself to step out of the comfort circle and let yourself mature in a hard battle.

In the face of life choices, take a step back and not be broad. When you give up again and again, you are actually handing over the right to choose for life. You don't force yourself. At the end of the day, you can only force yourself to live and passively.

I also asked myself: I always force myself. What is it for the person to live?

Some time ago, I interviewed a few slimming successful sisters. One of them lost 30 pounds in three months, the skeletal muscle rose from 22.5kg to 24kg, and the chest rose from C-CUP to D-CUP.

In the three months of losing weight, she forced herself to go to the gym at 7:00 after work every day, stretching to eight o'clock, aerobic forty-five minutes, and then stretching to nine. Going home, it is already ten. Sometimes I have to work overtime, she is about seven o'clock in the morning.

The company made a cake. She gave the cake to everyone. She didn't dare to eat it. She asked her colleagues if they were good.

When I worked overtime, I called a takeaway. My colleagues ordered McDonald's. She only dared to order a mashed potato.

She said: "I want to give it a try. I have been able to stick to one thing for so many years."

It is not easy to force yourself to insist on three months. However, after slimming down, you can wear a good-looking skirt with a waist and you can take a self-portrait without looking for an angle. You can inadvertently bask the clavicle and the mermaid line...

- You are now forced to do what you don't want to do, in order to do what you want to do in the future.

Now you, forcing yourself to grow, to become a better look, to grasp the initiative of life, will not be forced by the situation in the future, and will be driven hard to move forward. We are forcing ourselves to work hard and we are fighting for the right to be self-willed in the future.

Sometimes, people have to force themselves to grow up - don't be lazy, don't be timid, don't retreat. "Going in" step, you can see the broad sky.