Men don’t be ruined for a lifetime

Calculating is a good habit, life can help us save money, work can improve work efficiency, but as a man is too much calculations, always feel small, especially in some trivial matters.

On the surface of the calculations, this person is very smart, in fact, it is a little trick that does not flow into the flow. If others do not say it does not mean that they do not know. These calculations will make men lose their marriage, lose their careers, and lose the value of life.

There was an aunt who once told me that she didn't particularly like her boyfriend's boyfriend. "I have seen it once and it looks so handsome, but how can it be so small, eat a meal at a restaurant, and want a napkin, I want it. A glimpse, no use of two, the rest are taken away in the bag. This matter is not big, the key is to reflect that this person's quality is not high."

This bad impression, I am afraid that a truck paper towel can not be recovered, right? But the boy might not be aware of it.

Too smart a man will give people a feeling of insecurity. Everything is calculated. Who dares to work with you? Every day, I am afraid of being sold, and I will give you some money.

A few paper towels are really nothing. But this little thing will affect the judgment of others on you, making people feel that your realm is not high, misbehaving, and can not be trusted. Once an important person produces this view, the negative effect is not easy to estimate. Small is not good for a while, and big is for a lifetime.

Twelve years ago, a male student went to France just after graduating from college and began studying abroad. Born ordinary, he inspires to change his destiny by studying abroad, and everything is frugal. Gradually, he found that the ticket office of the local public transport system is self-service, that is, where you think of it, buying tickets according to the destination, the station is almost open, there is no ticket gate, no ticket collector, and even Even random random checks are very rare.

He discovered this management loophole, or it seemed to be a loophole in his way of thinking. With his own intelligence, he accurately estimated the probability that the number of evasive tickets was only about three ten thousandths.

He was complacent about his discovery, and since then he has often fled the ticket. I also found a reason to comfort myself: I am still a poor student, can save a little bit.

Four years later, the famous university's golden signboard and excellent academic achievements gave him full confidence, and began to frequently enter the door of some multinational companies in Paris and smugly promote themselves.

But these companies are enthusiastic, but after a few days, they are all rumors. The failures made again and again made him angry. He believes that these companies must have a tendency to racially discriminate and exclude foreigners.

The last time, he rushed into the office of a company's human resources manager, asking the manager to give him a reasonable reason for not being hired. However, the outcome was unexpected.

- Sir, we are not discriminating against you. On the contrary, we value you very much. When you come to apply for a job, we are very interested in your educational background and academic standards. To be honest, from the ability to work, you are the person we are looking for.

- Then why not collect such talents for your company?

-Because we checked your quota record and found that you have three records of being punished by bus evasion.

- I don't deny this. But for this little thing, you have given up a talent that has published papers in journals many times?

- Little things? We don't think this is a trivial matter. We noticed that the first time the evasion ticket was in the first week after you came to our country, the inspectors believed in your explanation, because you said that you are not familiar with the self-service ticketing system, just to give you a ticket. But after that, you evaded the ticket twice.

- At that time, there was no change in my pocket.

- No, no, ma'am. I disagree with your explanation, you are doubting my IQ. I believe that you may have hundreds of evasive votes before being seized.

- Then, can't sin die? Why are you so serious? Can you change it later?

- No, no, sir. This matter proves two things: one you do not respect the rules. You are good at discovering vulnerabilities in rules and using them maliciously. Second, you are not worth trusting.

And much of our company's work must rely on trust. If you are responsible for market development in a certain region, the company will give you a lot of power. In order to save costs, we have no way to set up complex supervisory agencies, just like our public transport system. So we can't hire you. It's safe to say that in this country or even the entire EU, you may not find a company that hires you.

Until then, he was as awake as a dream, and regretted it.

However, what really makes him feel a sense of horror is the last words of the other party: morality can often make up for the shortcomings of wisdom. However, wisdom can never fill the gap of morality .