What hurts you is your opinion of things.

There is a person who takes a bus on a rainy day, and the passengers in the car are crowded like sardines. In the impatient, he suddenly felt that someone's umbrella tip touched his ankle. He wanted to turn his head and color the people who didn't know how to be important. But the car was so crowded that he couldn't turn around. When the car swayed, the tip of the umbrella stabbed even more, and the anger in his heart gradually rose. I wanted to wait for a while to reprimand the other party.

It was so easy to get to a big station, and some passengers, he finally had room to turn around, angrily to open the stinging umbrella tip with leather shoes, and turned to glare at the "not long-eyed" passenger with the most severe expression.

As a result, he found that the other person was a blind person. It was not the umbrella tip he imagined, but her crutches! The anger that was hard to depreciate in his heart suddenly disappeared, and the ankle seemed to be no longer so painful. It is.

Why does the whole feeling suddenly change? Yes, it is the idea that has changed. On the surface, this person's anger is caused by the "that person" who stabbed his ankle, but it is actually from the idea that "this person is very reckless and rude."

Therefore, when he discovered that the other person was a blind person, his "thoughts" changed, and the "feeling" changed.

There is a story in "Zhuangzi", which is like this:

On a smoggy morning, a man rowed the boat up the river. Suddenly, he saw a boat rushing straight to him. Seeing that the boat was about to hit his boat, he shouted: "Be careful! Be careful!" But the ship still hit it straight, and his ship almost sank. So he violently thundered and began to roar to the other side, and his mouth was unobstructed. But when he took a closer look and found it was an empty ship, then the gas would disappear.

If you are sprinkled with water by someone upstairs, you are likely to yell at him and even yell. If the sky suddenly rains to wet you, even if you are a bad-tempered person, you will not be furious.

Therefore, you will know: Many times, things will not hurt you, hurting you is your own thoughts and opinions about things!