Deciding whether you go to heaven or go to hell in 2019

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There are two stories that I often use to teach new people.

The first story: Once upon a time, a monk was a neighbor with a butcher. The monk gets up every morning to read the scriptures, and the butcher wants to get up early to kill the pigs. In order not to delay work, they made up their own small alarm clocks and called each other to get up. After many years, the two died, the butcher went to the world of bliss, and the monk went to hell! Why? Because the butcher called the monk to worship Buddha every day, and the monk called the butcher every day to kill...

The second story: Bai Longma returned with the Tang Dynasty to the West, and the name is moving the world. Many Malays ask: Why do you work hard, but you have nothing? Bai Longma said, in fact, when I went to study, everyone was not idle in the mill, even tired of me. I take a step, you take a step, but my goal is clear, I walked back and forth in the 100,000 miles, and you always stayed where you are.

It is a terrible state to do one thing every day, but not to think about the meaning behind it. The so-called "the meaning behind thinking" is to set goals. The same is to go 10,000 miles, the target is called "Long March", and the target is called "Wandering."

Just like watching a play every day, the goal is that the director has accumulated skills. The goal is that the writers have accumulated bridges. The goal is that the music people have accumulated inspiration, others have collected and classified, accumulated winter powder, and you only Accumulated dark circles and glasses.

So, if your 2015 has no goals, please start planning from this article. This may decide whether you will continue to be as mediocre as a Hummer in the new year, or as good as a white dragon horse; continue to stay in hell or climb the cloud.

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A famous magazine in Paris once had a prize-winning question: If the Louvre fires and the conditions at that time only allow a piece of art to be rescued, which one would you choose?

Almost all of the answers revolve around "whether you are taking the statue of Venus or the courage to save Mona Lisa." The best answer is: choose the one that is closest to the door!

For you who are working on a New Year's plan, this story has two inspirations:

a) The goal should be smaller.

Aspirations are a good thing, but they are too high enough to be invisible. This kind of goal is only suitable for letting you in your heart. Just like the statue of Venus is invaluable, but you are not Li Yuanba, the ending can only be with her thighs buried in the sea of ​​fire.

A reasonable goal should be that you can get it by picking up your feet. For example, remember a word every day and do it ten times a day. Don't think that these are insignificant, and doing it is better than not doing it. If you do it, you will have a miracle. Every time you accomplish a small goal, you will enhance your self-confidence; when a small goal is internalized into your habit, the original unattainable goal will become your next small goal.

b) The goal is to be less.

Some people have written a lot of goals for saving paper and face problems. Although they are not as good as the Louvre, they are as full as a treasure shopping cart, and the actions they can take are as skinny as their own wallets.

With many goals, resources and energy will be diluted, and the difficulty of planning will increase. The same is a fifteen-minute gap. If your goal is to "write a novel," then you can take a pen or a phone and write a few words. If your goal is to write novels, learn English, street girl, eat all over the city, and contribute to world peace... then it will take five minutes to consider "What should I do in these fifteen minutes?" In the end, you may not be able to do it.

Too many goals mean no goals. Most cross-border people are also one stage and one goal to strengthen themselves.

When you have to face multiple goals, you must have a judgment of priority. Just like the fire of the Louvre that only allows you to save a piece of art, you have to ask yourself: "If I can only do one thing this year, what will I do?"

One of the activities that emerged in the United States was called "Before I die". People wrote on the blackboard wall of the community what they wanted to do before they died. Many people find their most important life goals. Maybe you can try .

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Many people have their own goals, but they don't have clear goals. They can even say that they don't know what is called a "clear goal."

The so-called "clear goal" has at least two levels:

First, it must be able to become text.

Harvard University has done a famous experiment to ask the life goals of recent college students. As a result, 80% of students have no goals, 15% of students just think about this problem, and only 5% of students have clear goals and write into words. After 20 years of follow-up analysis, the 5% of students achieved more than the sum of the other 95% of students.

I often brew a piece of text in my heart, and I feel that I can get a literary award when I finish writing. From the beginning of the first character, I will continue to find all kinds of frustrating injuries.

The process of turning an idea into a word, you have to follow the grammar, have to write a sentence, and naturally enter the process of rational thinking. Hiding the target in your heart is like hiding the goddess on a hard disk, only to satisfy the illusion.

Second, it must be able to tell you what to do every day.

You, with great ambition, may have written a "clear" goal: buy a luxury home on the hills in five years! The former president of the American Association of Financial Advisers, Walker, tells you that this is a typical "ambiguous goal." If you are moving, you must first find out the mountain and calculate the value of the cottage. Then, considering inflation, calculate how much the house is worth five years later. Then, you have to figure out how much to save each month in order to achieve this goal...

Nissan’s CEO, Gao En, is known as a management wizard. His famous saying is: "The goal of not being able to digitize, I can't implement it." For example, the goal of "expanding contacts" should be translated into "exchange 30 business cards per month and keep in touch with five of them. ". The goal of “enhancing advertising campaigns” can be translated into “promoting to 15 media outlets, and 8 are indeed published”. If it is a long-term goal, it is necessary to “count down” the specific figures to be achieved in the long-term, medium-term, and recent orders. For example, the goal of "more love with your wife" can also be turned into "every day and the wife go to the park for an hour."

So, if you can't just write your own goals, you can't just tell yourself what you can do today to get close to the goal, then you are not on the road to your dreams.

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How many New Year's plan books will eventually become a piece of paper? A statistic in the UK in the past few years is that only 22% of people can complete the New Year's goals. If you belong to the shameful 78%, don't rush to swear your thin willpower, maybe you just didn't find the right way.

I am in the article "Leaving before the year-end award, you are the winner", mentioned the famous "cotton candy experiment", saying that only one-third of children can hold cotton candy for 15 minutes without eating, they The willpower is stronger, so the future will be more successful. In recent years, some scientists have re-do this experiment. The difference is that they teach children some ways to divert attention, such as singing a song in the heart and going to the toilet. As a result, more than half of the children stubbornly held back their saliva. This is the power of the method.

I am a student who studies medicine. In the internship, I saw the method mentioned in Hou Wenzhao's article, so I painted the gourd as well: he asked a good brother, how many times did he have a few internships? Answer seven or eighty times. He thought, "Even if he is seven or eighty times, then I am at least a hundred times." So he ordered himself the goal of "holding a hundred times with a cheeky face." Then make a form, and once every time, write down the time and reason and think about where something went wrong. This approach gives him the feeling of a computer game score. At the end of the one-year internship, his form was only filled less than 50 times.

The reason why the game is addictive is that there are three main elements:

The first is to split the big target into small goals.

In the face of the final BOSS, we must continue to upgrade, to pass a number of levels. These upgrades and levels are milestones, let us clearly see the trajectory close to the final goal, and the joy of success that we are continually harvesting, let us enjoy it.

Yamada, a Japanese native, has won the international marathon world championships in 1984 and 1986. His success has attracted a lot of attention. In an interview, he said: I will familiarize myself with the route before the game and draw the eye-catching signs along the way, such as banks, red houses, etc., as a few small goals in the schedule. In this way, a marathon becomes a long-distance running, and it will not be slack off because the end is far away.

Y is also gradual by setting stage goals: his first day of internship has been smashed twice, and the next day he set his goal to be only once, then adjusted to two days once... In the last month of the internship, he never groaned at all.

Second, the success or failure immediately received feedback .

One of the appeals of the game is that you will have instant and concrete feedback every time you make a lot of blood and a successful action. And after receiving the feedback of the failure, you will immediately analyze the cause and adjust the tactics.

The management master Du Laq recalled that he was in the country for a few hours. The teacher asked each student to write down the learning goals of each subject on Monday, and write down the learning results on the weekend, and found out "what can be done but not done." The teacher will give special guidance to these goals as a new goal for students next week. Du Laike said: "In retrospect, she taught us the key to self-management, that is, 'feedback analysis.' No matter how far the target is, the expected results of the action should be recorded, and the actual results should be compared and improved through continuous review."

The form that Y has made is a tool for “feedback analysis” that allows you to see the results of your daily efforts in a timely and concrete manner and to improve your customs clearance skills through continuous review.

The third is third-party supervision.

Compared to stand-alone games, the biggest stimuli for online games for players is that your game data is public. This allows the player to constantly improve his data driven by the triumph.

A century ago, Schwab, the founder of Bethlehem Steel in the United States, inspected the factory and asked about the output of the day shift. After getting the "six batches" of answers, he was happy to write on the ground with chalk. The night shift staff saw the big numbers, but it was not a taste. They worked hard to complete the seven batches and triumphantly rewrote the numbers on the ground. The day shift staff met and decided to join the game, reaching ten batches at an alarming rate... The two sides did not give each other and the output quickly soared.

Y then posted the form on the dormitory wall. His roommates were not willing to show weakness, but also posted a form. Two people bet who lost fifty skewers. Later, I went to eat the skewer that day, so I knew that he won the battle of the skewers.

There are thousands of ways, there is always one for you.

For example, economists did experiments: let people put photos of their children outside the envelopes where they are saved. It turned out that people can save 20% more money than if they didn't post photos. Because of the child's photos, it can remind adults of the "guilty feeling" of spending money: if you spend money, the child's future education fund will not fall! This is called "target visualization" in psychology.

You can wear black sanitary trousers out of the hollow black silk effect, you can also bite your teeth, buy a special expensive small size clothes, and hang it in the most conspicuous position of the closet. Seeing it every day, there will be a voice in my heart shouting: no longer lose weight, the latest model in 2015 will be changed to 2051 nostalgic money! Maybe you can get a chicken leg less than that day.