Poverty is not terrible, poor thinking is the most terrible

I have a college classmate. When I first met her, I just thought that her character is really good. She will take care of people and not lose her temper. The key is to stay calm. After in-depth interaction, she told me, "In fact, my character is good. The main reason is that I am inferior. I am afraid of offending anyone. Therefore, I can only be good for everyone." I asked: "Why are you inferior? You learn this. "She?" She said with some embarrassment: "My family is very poor. The money I come to college is borrowed. I can't eat well, I don't wear it well, especially at the university. I see so many bright and beautiful people, I feel that I am humble. "Also, almost everyone in the school has a laptop, and most people already have a smart phone. And she, the computer is not, the phone is not, the only way she can contact the outside world is to hear." The advantage of this is that she can devote herself to learning, she is also doing quite well, and she receives a national scholarship every year. The first time I heard her receiving a scholarship message, I was more happy than her. I thought about it. She could use the money to buy a regular computer or buy a smart phone so that she could go online and learn about it. The world is big. But the result is that a year has passed and she has not bought anything.

One day, I asked her: "How is your scholarship spent?" she said in a surprised look: "How do you spend it? It’s too late to pay back the bill? In addition to the tuition fee, there are money that my parents used to borrow in the past. Still on." Think about it too, the taste of borrowing money is not good, it is also a good plan to return. By the second year, she had sent a scholarship, and her life still had no improvement. I couldn’t help myself, and asked her how the money was spent. She said with pride: "My brother is married, buying a house is short of money, I put one I have given him more than 10,000 yuan." I said with anger: "If your brother doesn't have your 10,000 yuan, can't you afford to buy a house?" She said: "Of course you can afford it, but you have to borrow it. Others, I have money, I will give it to him first, and I don’t have to pay it back.” When I sent the scholarship in the third year, I didn’t ask her again.

In the year of her senior year, she decided to take a postgraduate degree. Learning is so good, and no other skills are available. It seems that there is only one way to take the postgraduate exam. Postgraduate study needs to buy the real questions of the school, because the school is more confidential, so the online questions are not many and incomplete, can be bought through some counseling institutions, but the price is much more expensive. She frowned and said to everyone she saw: "What to do, the real problem can not be found." Others advised her: "It takes two or three hundred dollars to buy a set, and saves a lot of trouble." Every time she said: "It's too expensive, I can't afford it." So, she spent more than a month, going to the school's electronic reading room every day, and looking for all the information. She felt that this was a very fulfilling thing, and saved two or three hundred dollars in one month!

At the end of the postgraduate entrance examination, her grades are on the verge and she can only wait for the retest. It is said that at this time, you have to keep an eye on the computer for a moment, refresh the page to see if there is any latest information. But she doesn't have a computer, it is very inconvenient. When she has time, she can go to the school room to see it. On that day, the school sent out information about the adjustments in the school, but at two o'clock in the afternoon, the information had to be sent before four o'clock, which means that you must complete it within two hours. After I took a nap, when I woke up, I saw this message on the postgraduate website. It was already half past three. I called her. She said that she was not seen in the study room. Then, I gave her a phone call for admission, and let her report directly to the first name. What I didn’t expect was that the quota was full, even if the score was higher, because the time was late, it would not work. She cried faintly, complaining that the school gave too little time, but did not think: at that critical node, getting information in time is much more important than learning more than a few knowledge points.

Fortunately, because of the high scores, she has several good schools to adjust. She chose one in Beijing, but was brushed down during the interview. I said, you can try a few more, so many good schools can go, her first reaction is: "Going to Beijing, it took five or six hundred dollars, but it failed, and it was white. The school, spent money, can't test it, what should I do?" What logic is this? In the face of the future and money, her first consideration is money. At this time, she seems to have forgotten the one-year light war and waste. That high score. At that time, I thought, maybe her desire to study is not so strong, and giving up is not necessarily a bad thing.

Before graduation, she was preparing to test her hometown teacher. When chatting, I said, "When the teacher is very good, I can solve the burden of the family." She has always been steady, suddenly said: "Can I go to work while studying?" I was surprised, "you want to read now." Research, why didn't you choose a school at that time? Or, you will stay in the school for half a year, and you will have to prepare for the whole exam. Work, how can you review the time?" She still used money to answer me, "I still need to spend money at school." When you are a teacher, you will have a salary, you can support yourself and take the test again." Think about it too, if you don't have money, I am really embarrassed after graduation and spend the rest of my family.

Then one day, her wallet was stolen. I asked, "Is your bank card in it?" she said. I casually asked: "Is there money?" She said: "Yes, but the thief should not be able to get it out." "Why?" "The five thousand dollars in the money, I keep it regularly, it is not easy to take it out." Then, I was petrified instantly.

If 5,000 yuan does not exist regularly, if 5,000 yuan can be spent, then it does not take a month to find information, use this month to prepare for the test, the score may be a little more; you can go A few schools retest, maybe, can go to a school better than the first one; you can not have to ask for money at home, continue to prepare for half a year in school, wholeheartedly, once successful; of course, you can buy even a few A hundred dollars of smart phones, refresh the web page, you will not miss the adjustment information.

Our hometown evaluates such people as "poor and afraid." Because of poverty, so what is done is to consider the question of money first. As everyone knows, the more you think about money, the more you lose the opportunity to make more money.

There is a good friend who is much poorer than her. I am not as good as her, and the scholarship is not as good as her. But he used all of this money to invest in himself. That year, he decided to take the Beijing Film Academy. He took all the money out and went to Beiying for a very expensive remedial class. He took the train to and from the school and Beijing a dozen times, and then took a test. Now, he has written a film review fee of at least a thousand. After one year, basically, he can have the remaining money to replenish his family. Many people say that the school of Beiying and Zhongju must be a rich boy, but I am a very good friend who is very thorough. I am not afraid at all. I have completed my gorgeous turn with my own strength.

Poor people always love to talk about the unfairness of the world. In the final analysis, it is the result of their own choices. How to make the biggest achievements on a limited material basis is what we really want to think about, not just how to enrich material wealth. A wealthy person, if there is no broad pattern, will have a declining day. The size of the pattern determines to a large extent what direction we will have in our lives. It is the big skill to win more with less. Making money is much more important than saving money.

"Money is supreme" is certainly a kind of poverty thinking, but there is also a deep-rooted way of thinking poverty, that is, "enemy wealth."

Some time ago, a post was circulating on the Internet. One girl accused another wealthy girl in the dormitory. The main dissatisfaction was: "I used the Apple computer and the Apple mobile phone when I was a freshman. It was just showing off the wealth; my boyfriend drove her to pick her up. It was a shame; go to the big mall. After shopping, putting the shopping bag on the table is like deliberately showing us; spending money like running water, the price of a piece of clothing catches up with our monthly living expenses...” The girl’s bad words in the whole post The venting of all kinds of hatred of the rich, the poor to see the rich are not pleasing to the eye, seems to be a matter of righteousness. The girl who is going to college may not know that after graduation, she will meet more rich people. Sometimes, he may be your neighbor, your colleague, or even a classmate who was not as good as you. How was that day?

If your mentality is wrong, then everything in your eyes is definitely not going anywhere. If we change our mindset, will the days be much better? For example, she uses Apple computers and mobile phones. Can we learn more about the achievements of Jobs, what are the interesting apps, and how it differs from other brands. There is a mobile phone with different brands in the dormitory. I think it is a good thing, it is better to use Samsung than everyone else; for example, she buys clothes are famous brands, can our girls also use this to understand the various women's brands, maybe we will go to the party in the future, I used the evening gown of that brand; for example, she has refined smoky makeup every day, we can also learn from her. After going out of college, few people are willing to teach you this. Since life has already made such an arrangement, it is better to learn than to hate it. People have a good side and can learn something that is nutritious to them in different people. This is the ability.

Poverty can easily make a person's eyes tilt, but poverty can easily shape a person. The key is not to immerse yourself in poverty and think about everything with poor thinking. At all times, remember: The only way to get rid of poverty is to learn, to learn from all kinds of things, different people, and to support yourself is more important than anything else.