The luck you think is the light that someone else has worked hard for a long time.

Story one:

Xiao A is a student at a normal university in Guangzhou and graduated this year. She met when I was a branded campus Halloween team in Guangzhou University City in November 2019. At that time, she was one of the part-time heads of the mini show and team members of our campus. She also starred at the sexy witch at the event. The friendship between us is based on the activities of the party at the party. I helped her to organize the makeup and chat. After the project ended, I left Guangzhou to return to Shanghai, followed by WeChat, and occasionally interacted in the circle of friends.

Last week, she frequently saw some articles I wrote on some online platforms and public accounts, and ran to chat with me. She said, is that you? I guess you are the name and background. . She said, you are not working in an advertising company, how did you suddenly become a columnist? I said that this is just a personal interest, writing in my spare time.

Xiao A curiously asked, how can I become a columnist, and I also want to have a platform that can occasionally write some traces of essays. I said, I am just getting started, and there is nothing special about it. Anyway, I write more, slowly find my own style and characteristics, try to publish it on some open platforms or submit it privately, waiting for your text. People appear or are edited to mine.

Xiao A said that I am not the kind of person who can express himself in words. When I was in the Chinese department, I didn’t usually write anything. I only wrote a little when I was sad. I said it is normal, because you don't like it enough. If you really like words, you will always write, keep writing, and then you will write well. I said, it is better to register an account on the short book and use the short book as your diary or draft paper. Write it slowly on it. If you have a long time, you will have progress. As for the "column writer" is a good goal, but the goal can only be achieved if only the effort is made. It is useless to talk about it.

Xiao A said that I didn't think so much. I was just curious. Why do some people can be excavated, are they lucky, or do they have the door to this and take the initiative to find resources? I feel that I am relatively occluded in this respect. She went on to ask, yes, did you know many magazines and editors of the public number?

I said, it is your own initiative to go out, or someone else to find you, this is not the point. No matter what position and field you are in, you are good and others will come to you. If you are in a bad level, there is no way to go. Strength is the first, the door is the second, doing everything is the same.

【two】

I don't know if you have found out that there are two issues in our conversation that are particularly interesting.

When talking and chatting, how many questions a person asks reflects the psychological state of the person and the logical way of thinking about the problem. The way you think about and respond to each other's problems is determined by your logical logic of thinking.

For example, Xiao A asked, “How to become a columnist?” What I think is:

First, I still don't think that I am qualified to wear the "writer" hat at the moment. At best, I am a person who likes to write words.

Second, as for how to become XXX, this is a very broad question, and the broad question is destined to have a very good and accurate answer. It's like "how to be a great person" and "how to make your heart more broad". It is obvious that the latter is easier to answer, just because it is more targeted.

Third, why does A ask "how to become a columnist" instead of "when did you start writing articles" and "How long have you been writing?", which is more specific and enforceable. I boldly speculated that perhaps she saw "results" in her eyes, and only "results" in her concern. As for the "process" in the middle, she did not care so much. However, when we talk about anything in the world, can we strip the middle process and talk about the "results" directly? It seems that it can't be done.

Many times, we tend to see only the "outcomes" of others and ignore the "efforts" of others. But we will work hard to find out the success stories of others, the successful method, the result of the spying of other people's success path directly determines whether we are appreciating the person in front of us or throwing a contempt!

When the conversation reached "Do you know many magazines and editors of the public number?" things became more interesting.

Many times we find that others have achieved some success, or have sat in a certain position, seen or known by the public. Our first reaction is that people are lucky and have a way. You think that others are just lucky, but the truth may be that the energy that has been accumulated for a long time has finally begun to erupt, and finally began to be seen by others. As far as I am concerned, it’s not eight years of high school education and a mess of tofu. From the beginning of the freshman year to now, it’s been seven years since I wrote it. I wrote it for seven years before I started to have it. Something that resonated with everyone began to be recognized and seen by everyone. Everything, how simple it is. A long time ago, I said that if I have any heroic dreams, it is that I hope that one day my words will cure people's hearts. I worked hard for seven years before I started to warm everyone, so I had a little qualification to be everyone's sun.

I have a college classmate, a very talented girl, who is also a code word. I started to write about the script during college. Now I am writing a novel at home. Her daily life track is eating, animating, reading, writing novels, and occasionally resting. , repeated again and again. Later, I realized that she has been writing intermittently since the middle school days. Now there are four novels, and there are countless short stories. She wrote for so long, until this year I felt that I should have achieved results, and I started to start some publishing matters. . Perhaps, by this time next year, her novels are popular in major bookstores and e-commerce channels. People who don’t know or former classmates will see that she is lucky when she publishes books. She may have resources in this area. The door, or an English major student, suddenly came out of a Chinese novel, but also suddenly fire? But you really do not know how long people have worked hard. How long have people been writing before they dare to take their work out?

【three】

I admit that I also have such a time to attribute the success of others to "good luck" or "resource advantage", and even the reason for "being good-looking and willful". But recently, I am beginning to reflect more and more. Why do we think so? Why is it more inclined to attribute the success of others to luck?

One day I suddenly figured it out, because it is a particularly simple, especially once-and-for-all thing, to say that someone else’s success is "good luck." Because things like luck are not fixed, they are destined to be beyond our control. When we attribute the success of others to something we can’t control, we are “unsuccessful” and “failed” for ourselves. And "abandoned" found a good excuse. Because we don't have those resources, we don't have those lucky. Anyway, no matter how we do it, we won't succeed. Then why should we work hard? We don't have to do anything, just keep the status quo. Anyway, no matter how hard we try, it doesn't work. Have you thought about this? Have you found an excuse for yourself?

Thinking from another angle, we attribute the success of others to good luck. We are not narrow, not dull. We are just too smart, and we have learned too early. Therefore, even if it is for your own comfort, there is a decent statement for the situation that is not so successful at the moment, and you will choose to stick the words of others "success is just luck" to the end. But is this really good? This is not very useful!

Many times, we think that luck is the light that others have worked hard for a long time. Admitting this is the beginning of our progress. Rather than attribute success to the illusory things like "luck," it's better to build it on something we can control, such as hard work, such as hard work, such as methods.

In the end, even if you are very sure and sure, people are successful with good luck and resources in place. Please also pretend that others are working very hard to get to where they are now. Only in this way can you carry a "child" The power of not being convinced, with your extraordinary efforts and persistence, defeat the opponent you want to defeat and win the war you want to win.