No one's growth is easy

Two years ago, my friend and I went to a film conference. Sitting in the front row of the audience, there was a girl on the stage who kept staring at S.

She is just a supporting role, that is, the long list will have to scroll for a long time to have her name. Throughout the whole process, she and all the supporting roles did not have any chance to speak. When the host introduced them, it was almost finished without waiting for the audience's applause to ring. In the row of cast members, she stood in the corner and was the most inconspicuous person.

When she smiled at S, S said that she did not care so much. It seems to be the professionalism of the actor, so he stood on the stage and smiled spontaneously. And this starts from the beginning to the curtain call.

At the end of the conference, the actors who became stars have already been surrounded by reporters, and they have squeezed others out of the room without leaving a gap. And she laughed and walked off the stage with others. She stopped S at the door: Hello, remember me?

She recognized her when she looked at her closely. Under the powder makeup, I also remembered her appearance that year, it seems to be clearer than now, and simple.

Seven or eight years ago, I played with S to the crew. I was making a movie. I didn't remember the name. At least I didn't show it in my city. On that day, a meeting was held. The protagonists and supporting actors on the stage stood in a row. All the actors enjoyed the spotlight, and all the fans enjoyed the close face. Many people on the stage can't name them, but you also know that there is a kind of false madness called taking pictures with stars. All the photos of the reporter are on the stage. That year she was still a girl of about twenty years old. She sat quietly under the stage, surrounded by a group of camera uncles, bustling and buried her. But she always smiled at the stage. In fact, no one noticed her at all. At the appearance of each protagonist or supporting character, she clap her hands in a courtesy manner. Do you know what is not humble? That is, when you find that everyone doesn't care about you, you still respond with the most beautiful look in your imagination.

S said: I want to take pictures with her. S lifted the camera and threw it at me. She was very surprised. She moved to the side and made half a chair for S. They put together hard. I remember that she was holding S, maybe in the eyes of many people, they It’s just a passerby.

They jumped together and hugged together. Outside the hall, listening to her chilling a lot of things, I know that she has to smash more than 10 films every year, holding a low income in the past few years, living in the most rudimentary room, sometimes tired when washing clothes In the bathroom. The longest record is that I only slept for 12 hours in 5 days. Sometimes in order to capture a shot, I have to sleep all night. It is thinner than before. It is because the long-term diet is irregular and not enough to love oneself, so it falls into the stomach. She said: Sometimes it feels very tired and hard, but all the work can't be successful overnight. Most people's success needs to work slowly and slowly.

S later contacted her, S said: she is now more opportunities, the name appears more opportunities than before, I am not surprised. I often see her update her circle of friends at two or three in the morning, seeing that she keeps spinning around in different cities, and she feels that she is so hard, worthy of everything. In fact, I will always remember that she sat under the stage and applauded for others. She also remembered that she stood on the stage and smiled brightly. This step, she walked hard enough to cross the past.

In fact, life is like a drama. After all the climaxes, it seems that there is a more perfect story than before. And each of us has different growth trajectories. No matter which kind of environment you put in, you will find that on the way to growing up, you have never been so smiling, and those things that have made you wrong and sad, and finally It became the prelude to a gorgeous turn.

"Mad Men" is a drama I like very much. There is a girl named Petty. When Petty first entered the unit, it was almost useless in the eyes of others. However, she quickly completed a small gimmick from a fledgling, a secretary became a junior copywriter, and later had her own independence. The office has its own secretary.

You can think that her success is contingent, such as the idea of ​​the lipstick advertisement, for example, because Petty just wants to lose weight, so try to use the weight loss product to be re-positioned, and then, for example, his boss is sick because of illness. With his temporary mission, Petty gave his ideas brilliantly, and he also got a chance to get a promotion.

But you can almost see that the history of this girl's growth seems to have no time to give her everything seems so easy. When she joined the company, no one gave the initial warmth in a strange environment. Instead, everyone was watching her jokes—a newcomer who was dispensable, a newcomer with nothing. Work is also a fatal blow. When everything is in the air, she is like a lost child. The road ahead is long and her vision is unclear. So she has to rely on her surviving thoughts about work and climb one side. Go until you see the light slowly. But you always feel that Petty has the most simple ambition, and this son is a kind of determination that does not compromise everything that comes with him, and willingly walks with them slowly.

A few days ago, my group of friends had been discussing a problem. What should I do if I run into a job that I don’t like and who I don’t like? At that time, nothing more than one of the girls encountered a bottleneck in life - a contradiction with a colleague, so in a limited space became a stranger. This is naturally the most embarrassing, and all the heads are not seen, but they can’t hide. This also directly led her to start to hate the current work.

At that time, I was thinking of the first year of work. What an old leader said to me, his general idea is that it is impossible to grow up. You must always remember that only enough roads have passed. I have seen enough people and have done enough to really grow up.

Later, I slowly felt that growing up was never an easy task.

I worked in the countryside at that time and had the two most profound things I had encountered: The first thing was to go to the field with a colleague to make measurements on a snowy day. I took high-heeled shoes and couldn’t turn over a large block of buckets. At that time, the snow kept going, I couldn't turn it over, so I had to throw the umbrella and climb over. That day was the most messy day in my life, and the wet socks had been cold in my heart. After that incident, I didn't go through the high heels every time I got to the grassroots. The second thing is that when I was just working, because of a data error in a form, I had to go back and forth more than 20 kilometers and re-knife a stamp. But I remember that day, the leader faced my disappointing expression, because this is the simplest job, but I was wrong, and in his words: I feel worse than a middle school student. At that time, I was crying alone in the car. When I was young, I was sensitive to many things, such as the evaluation of others, such as fighting against new jobs. I was afraid that mistakes could be really wrong, and they were denied. But there is no way, so I cried while returning to the unit to change the information. Since then, I have maintained a habit of proofing each time after each time and ensuring correctness within a limited capacity.

There are still some small things after that, although they are not enough. But this made me work in the countryside for a few years and became less laborious and flustered.

I often feel that many times, life is a trip to the mountains and waters. When you slowly, you will meet many people you have never met. When you encounter something you have never encountered, you are at a loss, even if you are full of legs, but you Know that it is necessary to go. After this paragraph, you will slowly begin to explore a path that belongs to you. It is the way that others can't walk and can't learn.

When you are young, why do you have an answer; but when you are old, you may feel that there is never a so-called answer in life. This sentence is a classic quote from "The Fallen Angel". It is easy to grow without anyone. All the answers in life are actually on the road, and these answers are only for you.

And after many years, you will remember the past yourself, you will know that you are a transformation in the past, and this is really hard.