Can I not live like this?

A friend of WeChat gave me a paragraph, a cultural person said: "How to defeat the demons? In fact, it is very simple, choose one that you are least willing to do, but everyone tells you that it is the right thing. Untie the biggest in life. Devil, everything will be clear and cheerful"

First reading, it seems to be written correctly. But, when everyone tells you that it is the right thing, is it necessarily the right thing? Is it really clear that you are doing what you are most unwilling to do according to the will of others?

Reading, taking high marks, taking college, it is best to be famous, graduate, work, preferably civil servants, high salary, promotion, buy a car to buy a house, get married and have children... This seems to be a correct and standard life path for everyone. But have you ever thought about it: Can I not live like this? Can I use all my strength to do what I want to do most? In the day-to-day real life, what is wiped out is the dream, only the left. Wish. The difference between dreams and wishes is that the desire is to pray to the sky, there is no quasi-child, and the cat can only be realized by the dead mouse. And the dream is something that you can give up for all the things you hold in your hands and can fight for your life.

Still telling the two stories of personal experience.

I spent my college days in the Chinese Department of a key university. The Department of Arts and Sciences, you know, skipping classes, playing electric sleep, falling in love, is just a college life. There was a handsome classmate in the same class. When we were all sleeping in the winter bed, he rode a bicycle to another campus to listen to the computer school course. In the year of the sophomore year, he won the national advanced program. Certificate of the staff. In his junior year, he told me that he would take a master's degree in computer science from the Chinese Academy of Sciences. I was amazed that a Chinese-speaking student, from liberal arts to engineering, or the highest-achieving school, is such a huge change, is it possible?

He was tied in the library, and he spent 12 hours a day studying. The first year of the exam, fate made a joke with him. Every door has passed the line, but the total separation of the Chinese Academy of Sciences has one less point. Just one point, the dream has become so far away. However, the adjustment notice was down, and another famous school was willing to accept him. After his interview, he won the first overall score.

If it is us, we may accept the arrangement of fate, but he refused and chose to take another year.

In the last year, we all found jobs, started drinking, and bid farewell. He still rented a house in the school and continued to review. At that time, I felt that he was probably an opportunity.

When we all worked for half a year, when I was too busy to forget his dream, I suddenly received his good news. He really got it.

Today, he is already a Ph.D. in computer science. He has published papers in top international journals and presented his research results to the world at international conferences... No one believes that he was a Chinese university department a few years ago. Health.

Is this a miracle? This is precisely a dream.

If he compromises with reality, like most people, he may now be working as an editor or reporter who he doesn't like. He only sighs when he thinks about his dreams in the dark.

In addition, some people, this time I went to the Mustang Kingdom in Nepal to travel, and in that remote place, I met one special person after another. When I was in the car, I met two foreign middle-aged women. They were old and full of body shape, and they didn’t look like hikers. To be honest, there was still a slight scorn in my heart. But after talking to them, I was completely impressed. The two women have been volunteering for more than a decade to provide medical services to the local community. Abandoning all kinds of modern life in the West, I came to this small kingdom, which is almost closed, and relies on foot in and out. It may be able to persist for three months, half a year, but for more than ten years, it has become a life of self-selection.

I met four Japanese girls in lo-manthang, dressed very delicately. When I went to see the king with us, I was able to talk with them smoothly. I was also surprised. Why can people in this place speak Japanese so smoothly? Until dinner. When I couldn't help but ask one of the girls, she said: We are talking about Nepali. I am even more surprised: You are coming to study abroad? She said: We have been volunteering in Nepal for two years and used the holidays to go out.

Working for NGOs is unpaid, and most of the conditions are difficult. Later, I met two young American girls, cheerful and beautiful, graduated from prestigious schools. One of the girls was fluent in Chinese. Her previous volunteer project was in Yunnan, China. They are now working on a local GREEN HOUSE project to allow local residents living at high altitudes to eat fresh green vegetables.

In fact, there are so many lifestyle choices. There are thousands of dreams. There are so many people in the world who live a very different life with you. Why do you have to do a job that is dead, and a Can't live in a dead house as the only goal? Is that really what you need most in your heart?

"If you are already sitting in jail, then after years of running around, it is nothing more than to draw the ground again and again, you are nothing more than bringing your cell to more places. Going to a certain place, will make your own black Take out the house, get in, lie down, that's all. Wake up in the middle of the night, you are not thinking about anything other than a small black house - how to make my cell more refined, more comfortable, more blind, this is the most What matters."

I discussed a behavior like resignation with a friend. She said: He is not the same job, buy a house, and face the real society.

I said: Yes, I have to come back to face the real society. But this trip can bring you too many changes, from the world view to the way of behavior, knowing the tenacity, commitment, and choice. In fact, you have changed your destiny.

This is a world, the reason why it is worth it, not just because of "success", if you still have a dream to survive, then you deserve to work hard for it, when you are not old. Because some things you don't do now, you can't do it all your life.

Self-satisfaction, also shared.