Never underestimate the power of compassion

When I was a freshman who had just entered high school, one day, I saw a child in my class walking alone on the way home. His name is Kelly, and he holds a thick stack of books in his arms, which seems to be all textbooks. I thought to myself, "Is there still someone who takes all the books home on the weekend? It must be a nerd." I have a lot of weekend plans, just a few parties, and a football game with my friends the next afternoon. So I shrugged and prepared to go away.

Just when I was leaving, I saw a bunch of children running towards him. They hit him, knocked out the book in his arms and scolded him. He fell to the ground and the glasses flew out. I saw the children kicked it ten feet away from him. He looked up and his eyes contained extreme sadness.

I was sympathetic, so I walked slowly. When he climbed around looking for glasses, I saw a tear in his eyes. I handed the glasses to him and said, "Those guys are hooligans. They should be sentenced to life imprisonment." He looked at me and said, "Hey, thank you!" His face showed a smile, this is the kind of real Grateful smile.

I picked up his book for him and asked him where he lived. Only then did we find that we were very close, so I asked him why he had never seen him before. He said that he used to go to a private school.

Before that, I never played with a child from a private school. We talked all the way, I helped him hold some books. Suddenly found that he was actually a cool child. I asked him if he wanted to play rugby with my friends. He said that he thought. In this way, we spent the entire weekend together. The more I know him, the more I find myself, the more I like him, and my friends.

On Monday morning, Kelly went to school with a large stack of books. I stopped him and said, "God, you are like this every day, your muscles will be too developed." He smiled happily and handed me half of the book.

For the next 4 years, Kelly and I became best friends. When we went to high school, we began to think about college. Kelly decided to go to Georgetown, and I liked Duke. I know that we will always be friends, and distance is never a problem.

Kelly became the representative of the graduates who gave a speech at the graduation ceremony of our class. Usually only the best nerds were qualified. I have been making fun of him for this. He must prepare a graduation speech. I am very happy that I have to stand there and speak in public. It is not me.

On the day of the graduation ceremony, I saw Kelly, and he looked great. He is the kind of person who knows what to do in middle school. He is very tall and full of energy. In fact, wearing glasses makes him look great. He has more dates than me, and all girls like him. God, sometimes I will be a little embarrassed.

I can see that he is a little nervous. So I patted him on the back and said, "Hey, big, you are great!" He looked at me with a grateful expression and said with a smile, "Thank you!"

Before he started speaking, he cleared his throat. He started like this. "Graduation is the moment. At that time, you are going to thank those who have helped you through the difficult years. You must thank your parents, your teacher, your brothers and sisters, maybe There is a coach, but more likely to be your friend. I want to tell you here that being a friend is the best gift you can give them. Next, I will tell you a story."

I stared at my friend, and when he talked about the things we met on the first day, I was simply unbelievable - it turned out that he was planning to commit suicide on the weekend.

Because he wears glasses and loves to read books, he did not have a friend at the beginning of his transfer from a private school. He was always teased by his classmates. He talked about how he cleaned up the drawer that day so that the mother didn't have to take his things home afterwards. Having said that, he gave me a look and gave me a small smile.

"I am very grateful, I was saved. My friend's friendship warmed me, he saved me from this ridiculous thing!"

When this handsome, popular boy told us about his weakest moment, I heard the sigh in the crowd. I saw his mom and dad looking at me and smiling at me. It was also a grateful smile. It was not until this moment that I realized its deep meaning.

Never underestimate the power of your actions. With just a tiny move, you can even change a person's life, perhaps better, or worse.

"I don't blame you for feeling this way. If I were you, my thoughts would be the same as yours."

A passage like this will soften the worst stubborn temper, and you should have 100% sincerity when you say this, because if you are really that person, then your feelings will be exactly the same.

Everything about you now, the reason is not all in you - remember, the person who makes you bored, narrow-minded, unreasonable, his appearance, the reason is not you. I am sorry for that poor guy. Pity him, sympathize with him. You may wish to read the words that John Goffford said when he saw a drunken squatting on the street: "If it is not God's grace, I will be like that."

Seventy-five percent of the people you meet every day are eager to get sympathy. Give them sympathy, they will love you.

A person who enters the White House encounters a difficult problem of being a human being almost every day. President Taft is no exception, and he learned from experience that "sympathy" has great chemical value in neutralizing the violent feelings of acidity. In his book The Morals of Service, Taft gives an example of how he calms the anger of a disappointed and ambitious mother.

“A lady living in Washington,” Taft wrote. “Her husband has some political influence. She came to see me and wrapped me around for more than six weeks, asking me to appoint his son to a position. She was assisted by many senators and members of the House of Representatives and asked them to come to see me and reiterate her assurances.

“This position requires certain technical conditions, so I appointed another person according to the recommendation of the director of the bureau. Then I received a letter from the mother that criticized me as the worst in the world. People, because my refusal made her a very unhappy woman, she further complained that she had discussed with her state representative and would vote against an administrative bill that I am particularly interested in, she said that I should get the retribution.

"When you receive such a letter, you will immediately think about how to get serious with someone who is misbehaving or even a little rude. Then, you may write a reply. If you are smart enough, then I will put this reply back in the drawer, then lock the drawer and wait for two days - like this kind of letter, it usually takes two days to reply - after that time, you take it out again, it won't I want to send it out. I took this way. So I sat down and wrote a letter to her, the tone was as polite as possible. I told her that in this case, I understand very well My mother must be very disappointed, but, in fact, appointing a person is not determined by my personal preferences. I must choose a person with technical qualifications. Therefore, I must accept the recommendation of the Secretary. I also hope that her son In the current position, she can fulfill her expectations of him. This finally dispels her anger. She wrote a note to me, sorry for the letter she wrote last time.

"But the appointment I sent out was not immediately passed. After a while, I received a letter claiming to be her husband, but, as far as I can see, the handwriting and the last lady’s The letter is exactly the same. The letter said that because she was overly disappointed in this matter, leading to neurasthenia, illness fell on the bed, has become the most serious stomach cancer. Can I not cancel the previous name, replaced by her son And make her cheerful? I have to write another letter, this time is written to her husband. I said, I hope that the diagnosis is not correct, I am very sympathetic, his wife is so sick, he must be very sad However, it is impossible to revoke the name sent out. The person I appointed was finally finally passed. Two days after I received the letter, I held a concert at the White House. First to me. The lady and my compliments are the couple, although the wife who has recently been almost 'dead'."

Mangu is the representative of an elevator company in Tusao. The company has a contract with one of the best hotels in the city of Tossa to repair the elevators at the hotel. In order to be unwilling to bring too much inconvenience to the passengers, the hotel manager only allowed the elevator to stop for 2 hours at most, but the repair would take at least 8 hours. When the hotel is convenient to stop the elevator, his company may not be able to send the required mechanics.

When Mr. Mangu was able to send the best mechanic for the repair work, he called the manager of the hotel. He did not argue with the manager, he only said:

"Rick, I know that there are a lot of guests in your hotel. You have to minimize the time for the elevator to stop. I understand that you attach great importance to this, we have to try our best to meet your requirements, but after we check your elevator, it shows if we are now If the elevator is not completely repaired, the damage to the elevator may be more serious, and the time to stop may be longer. I know that you will not be willing to bring inconvenience to the guests for several days."

The manager had to agree to the elevator to stop for 8 hours. Because it is better than stopping for a few days. Since Mango expressed his understanding that the manager wanted to make the guests happy, he easily and without controversy won the manager's consent.

Norris is a piano teacher. She talked about how she deals with the problems that piano teachers and teenage girls often have. Bebeti has long nails. Anyone who wants to play the piano and leave long nails will be a hindrance.

Mrs. Norris reported: "I know that her long nails are a big obstacle to her desire to play the piano. Before I started teaching her class, I didn't mention her nail problem when we talked. I don't want to Fighting her desire to learn the piano. I also know that she is proud of not losing it, and takes a lot of time to take care of it so that it looks very attractive nails.

“After the first class, I felt that the time was right, and she said to her: 'Bebeti, you have beautiful hands and beautiful nails. If you want to play the piano as you can and you I want it so well, then if you can shorten your nails, you will find it too easy to play the piano. You think about it, okay? 'She made a face, saying she must not I will shorten my nails. I also talked to her mother about this situation. She also mentioned that her nails are beautiful and have a negative reaction. Obviously, Bebeti carefully trimmed the beautiful nails and came to her. It is extremely important to say.

"Beibati came to the second class in the second week. To my surprise, she shortened her nails. I praised her for making such a sacrifice, and I thank her mother for her influence. Her mother replied Said: 'Hey, I didn't say anything. Bebeti decided. This is the first time she listened to someone's advice to shorten her nails.'"

Bebeti knows that her nails are beautiful. It is very difficult to order her to shorten her nails, but Mrs. Norris did not do so. She only hinted to Bebeti: "I sympathize with you - I know the decision Shortening your nails is not an easy task, but the musical gains will make you better compensated."

Therefore, if you want people to accept your way of thinking, you should "sympathize with the thoughts and wishes of others."

Whether you can get along with others can be successful. It depends on whether you can accept the opinions of others with sympathy. Sympathy has great chemical value in the violent feelings of neutralizing acidity. Three-quarters of the people you meet every day are eager to get sympathy. Do you want to have a magical phrase that avoids disputes, removes bad feelings, creates good will, and enables others to listen?

Give them sympathy, they will love you.