A tragic story of a post-80s prestigious college graduate

A tragic story of a post-80s prestigious college graduate

Editor: This is a tragic story of a famous 82-year-old university graduate. It may be very long, but please be patient. After reading it, you can understand the life and struggle of a young man of an era. This is his story and the story of many of us...
I was born in 82 years and graduated from college for 3 years and 5 months. Currently working for a large-scale market consulting company, with a group, a monthly salary of 16,000, not counting other income and dividends. It is also a white-collar worker in the traditional sense. In Beijing, there is a suite, 80 flats, a mortgage, a car, Toyota RAV4.
Tell me about my experience.
I graduated from the best schools in the country, but I learned a profession that has almost no choice but to stay in school. When I was a senior, I found that the postgraduate study was tantamount to me. I had been mixing on campus for four years, with a GPA of less than 2.5. More crucially, at that time, I could not find a quiet heart as a student.
After experiencing the failure of the top 500, the Big Four, and the National Character Committee, I decided to go abroad. In June of 2004, the students stayed on campus, or took the fresh tripartite contract to step out of the campus. I dragged my luggage back to my hometown, a big city in the Yangtze River Delta. I went back with the archives relationship. And I used to want to stay in Beijing.
I was disheartened at that time, I was ashamed to mention in front of any relatives and friends that I graduated from XX University, which was the name that made me wearing countless auras four years ago.
One year, I was unemployed at home, an unemployed graduating student from XX University, and I began to prepare to go abroad. GRE, TOEFL, cumbersome applications, go back to school to open materials. The red door and the blue rework on the transcript are undoubtedly laughing at the four years I have mixed. It is also my perfect 4 years of StarCraft, CS, WC3, basketball, Yanjing, Xiaoji, absenteeism, and late. footnote.
The application to the United States was successful, and a 3 stream university sent me an offer. As a result, Xiaokang’s family began to pool money for me – the consumption of scholarships without scholarships is huge, especially in terms of RMB.
However, the visa did not pass. The US visa in 2005 is far from being so good. The offer of the 3rd University is ignored in the face of the visa officer like the air. At this time, it was aggravated, and my girlfriend who had been with me for five years proposed a breakup. I agree. She is a child in Beijing, a schoolmate, a classmate. We were together when we were freshmen. At that time, we were all first love. She is the most beautiful girl in the whole department. She is a dancer. After graduating, she went to the Big Four. Although her work is very tired, she is not limited to professional recruitment. She has a lot of basic salary and high overtime pay. For a confused graduate, the four majors are heaven.
One year after graduation, she wanted to buy a house and was able to pay the down payment for the house. I was unemployed, and I didn’t know how to go abroad.
She and I have been holding on for five years, and her parents have already treated me as a son, but we ended up with a split. When she broke up with me, she suggested it in a discussion: Let’s separate for a while... I I agree, at that time, I couldn’t add to my inferiority. And around her, there are too many successful men around.
I was disheartened, so my mother made a bank errand for me in my hometown. I started my short cashier career. A person who has never been in contact with finances, in the bank, followed the tellers to learn the cheques of the promissory cheques, and started to fight for them. They didn’t even have their desks and computers. No one knew that I had studied at XX University.
In 2005, I was able to calm my mind. This may be the past where I look back. The only place worthy of pride is the extremely meager salary, the bank tellers, and even a few of them. A junior college student who is one less than me. I don't have a chair. I play guerrillas every day. I stand behind them and watch them pay in tickets. One stop is one day. Wearing a cheap white shirt, after wearing a work clothes and a tie, may be very unsightly, and at that time, my biggest dream was to have a set of such work clothes, now I want to come, I feel very ridiculous, and A bit bleak.
I may have been completely defeated by setbacks. From the national small school to the high school graduation, I was so successful that I was shocked, the small promotion of the early delivery, the exemption from the middle of the country, and directly to the XX University, coupled with good athletic ability, Height 186, joining any group is the main force of the basketball team, the appearance is not bad... I don't understand at that time, what is the blessing of the blessing. God gave me a total of 22 years of unparalleled superiority, it should be. Now, I especially believe this.
A phone call saved me. In my resume before the graduation, I had a HR that was taken by a HR group of a Fortune 500 company a year and a half later, and browsed it. So I got The opportunity for such a job, ecstatic, ecstatic.
I went back to Beijing and had a job with a monthly salary of 2,500, the most profitable company in the industry in the world.
On my first day at the company, I started a business trip. For a three-month project, the company went to a team, 6 people, and I was supported by the project. The turbidity that has been suppressed for 1 year seems to be released here.
The treatment of the top 500 companies is unparalleled. Until now, although I have changed a lot of companies, I have been sitting on countless different desks, I have had a hard time counting business trips, and my position is also one liter and then rise, but I can only come from a business trip. Said, can not be compared with my implementation of the project in the top 500 companies. The difference of 3 months, we have transferred to 17 cities across the country, each person has a higher amount of taxis and meals per day, living in four or five-star hotels, single bed, one person, flight only on Air China, It starts at 11 o'clock every day. What kind of impact is this for a graduate of Shantou who has just climbed from setbacks? I am lost in it instantly.
I always think of a word that my mother said to me. At that time, I was lying on Hilton’s big bed. I received a call from my home. My mother learned about my current situation. In my arrogance, I just said to me, what are you actually doing? No, because you can't do anything. When you haven't enjoyed it yet, you don't have time to be content. You need to learn now. However, I am really contented. This is also doomed to the end of my first formal work.
There is always a factor in my character that condone myself. I have learned to converge on them now, but I don’t know at that time. After a gloomy year, the changes in the environment are different in a moment. It is a kind of The impact of the outbreak of the household, I feel that I finally got rid of the bad luck, so I indulged myself to eat, drink, and play with the teamleader on key issues. Looking back, how terrible I was at that time, there was no minimum professionalism, I was sorry for my salary, I was sorry for the excellent treatment provided by the company, and I lived up to the platform that I wanted to train.
Unsurprisingly, my first job died after I returned from a business trip—I didn’t pass the probationary period. No matter how my direct leadership sought opportunities for VP, I was swept away. In fact, I have not sat in the company's office for a week.
The first job, because of negligence and failed to pass the probation period, the top 500 companies, this is the biggest of all my setbacks. Until now, I have not let anyone who knows me know this experience, I think, I will never reveal to them that this is the darkest gap in my 25-year life.
I was beaten back to the original shape, so I started to sway, floating like Beijing in all the North drifts, the file was thrown out by fesco, I put it in Beijing talent. I can't tell my parents about my dismissal. I told them that I am very good in Beijing, I have excellent working conditions, and I can learn a lot every day. In fact, I have been unable to continue three meals. I can't go to my friends in Beijing, my buddies, my classmates, because I can't reveal the status quo of my embarrassment, and they have been working for more than a year. They have already had a small economic foundation. I can't possibly spend the feast of the party. Start.
I retired the original rented house and found a two-bedroom apartment with a 600 outside the North Fourth Ring. I lived in a small room with no heating. I lived in a big room with a pair of newly graduated students. Until now, I don’t want to think of the two people in my life. They are like this time, I am never willing to put on the memory table.
I started looking for a job. In November of 2005, the weather was very cold. Like most unemployed people, I, like most unemployed graduates from the second and third tier universities, poured into the talent market. No computer, every day in the Internet cafes to submit resumes, 3 months of salary was quickly spent by me, so I began to change the law to the family to ask for money, the reasons are numerous, such as paying half a year rent, the money is not enough.
Some resumes have responded, and more resumes are like a sea. A non-graduate graduate with no professional experience and no professional expertise is difficult to have a company to look after. In response to my resume, it is basically a small company.
I went to the interview, which made me see countless strange workshops and small companies that were hidden in the residential quarters. That was something I could not imagine in college. Of course, I also saw a liar company, a company that swindles in the name of recruiting actors and recruiting artists. There are also insurance salesmen. I almost stepped into that line. I also faced the process of how one person’s dignity was stepped on the soles of the feet. The face under his feet was still full of sincere smiles.
A big local public relations company expressed interest in me and they wanted to train me into a copy. The application procedure was strict and cumbersome. I passed the written test, the English written test, the English oral test and the AD interview. I realized that it is only one step away from the deep gap. But this step did not go up in the end.
The general manager offered to talk to me, her surname is Han. I was sitting in her large office, she only asked me a question, what do you think of the public relations industry. I am amazed. If you ask me this question again today, I can even write down more than 2000 words of comments without thinking. However, two years ago, there was only a blank space in my head for this question. Han always left me a homework, let me go back and write a proposal with ppt, about a simple press conference.
I fought in the Internet cafe for a whole day, and put together a ppt according to my own ideas. It was an amateur thing that I couldn't imagine today. It was unreasonable and messy, and there was no logical connection of any possible details. But then I was so satisfied with the "masterpiece". I think, Han always received such a ppt, and I feel the same as I am now. My interview failed again.
I can't stop it anymore. There are only less than 300 yuan left in Cary. I can't tell any truth about myself at home. So, when a small company promised to hire me, I was so thankful that God gave me a job. I am in the Internet cafe, bursting into tears, at least, this is a company working in an office building. According to their deputy general, XX University is already the key to the interview, ohmygod...
The monthly salary is 3000, there is no four insurance and one gold, no salary card, no salary. I started my second job.
I haven’t seen too much about the topic after the 80s. I haven’t seen the hot struggle, but the confusion that graduates face makes me unconsciously want to write my own experience. This is what I know. The only bumps in the people, but it seems to map out the situation of every college graduate, so I want to write.
This is a company that makes websites. It runs a golf website. The main way to make money is to sell discount cards for various stadiums to various senior officials through various channels, and to raise a group of sales that are kitsch but squirreled. Know how they are selling the discount card. And I, in this company, is the head of the so-called "active channel." In November, Beijing, grass yellow, no one played the game, there is no activity. I update the website with some news information every day, and take a look at the webpage to play the game.
I can always see a lot of friends in the 80s complaining about the life of a small company, the jealous colleagues, bullying the leader. I just want to say, don't fall into such a company slowly. After many years, I gradually find myself getting used to that kind of life and becoming such a colleague. I hate it there.
I am a laughing person. Even now, as a small leader in a department, I am often called the Sunshine Boy by the brothers below. However, I can never remember that I laughed a few times at the website company. Every day, I was relatively speechless with my colleagues. I looked at each other's poker faces and then turned my eyes back to my screen. Everything was silent.
Finding a job at that time is still one of the most important things in my life. The website company is my dependence on livelihood, but it is by no means a long-term berth.
In the days when I was in a small company, my college girlfriend found me. She learned from college classmates that I was in the top 500 company, and we have a good chance. First love, step into the marriage hall, five years of wind and rain, what a romantic. Really but cruel, I rejected her. I fell in a dark road, and I couldn't see even a little light in front. I was afraid that she would find me and see me in a desperate situation. Because I understand that with her character, she will never stand by, but that will crush my last little self-esteem.
I told her that I already have a girlfriend, and now I am sleeping next to me. She does not believe, cry. Because I didn't want the pair in the big house to hear and talk about it, I ran downstairs and dressed in a single coat in the cold wind, I didn't like you anymore! ! Then I hung up the phone. My sad selfishness.
I poked in the cold for a long time, then went upstairs and slept.
Not long ago, she told me on MSN that I received your newsletter for the Mid-Autumn Festival, and my parents also received it, thank you! My father also said that no one has ever accompanied him to drink. I am so sad because I have irreparably hurt the hearts of the two old people. The two old people who have always regarded me as a son, the two old people who have been in Beijing will take me to the old family at home.
In February of 2006, after three rounds of interviews, I was lucky enough to take care of me again. I was hired by a world-leading exhibition company. 06 is the Year of the Dog. At the beginning of this year, there is a perfect beginning, for me at that time.
The resignation of a big escape, I walked out of the door of that company, and it really feels like this. Everything new is waiting for me. This is the last chance I can grasp. I said this to myself. I believe that God will not distribute the chance card to the same person indefinitely.
Friends who have done exhibitions should know that although there is no such thing in the top ten most industry, it is not because it is not tired enough, but because it is much more tired than those industries. The exhibition has never received much attention in China, just treating it as an accessory to marketing or public relations. And I started in such a cracking industry.
The company's manpower is scarce, but the project is really not connected. Each AE has at least five or six projects, a press conference, a dinner party, and a booth construction.
I have been carrying four projects in a sneak peek. It is a time of day and night, busy every day until two or three in the middle of the night, the mobile phone is on standby.
One of the simplest press conferences, including site selection, venue leasing, on-site placement, process, design, construction, props, staffing, performance, host, desktop, AV lighting, software video, photography, internet Live broadcasts, gift purchases and packaging, journalists' media, press releases, media rides, plane transfers, guest invitations, car arrangements, hotel stays, guest desks, even lunches, parking permits, etc. In a simple press conference, there are tens of thousands of words in various ppt, excel and word that only fall on the computer, not to mention communication and modification in all aspects in advance. To be precise, as long as the customer has a little modification, it is necessary to take the initiative and make the most timely coordination of all aspects, and even the most inconspicuous AV data line is not in place at the scene. It is also enough to make the entire well-planned meeting. At that time, I was carrying four projects, working with different clients and coordinating with dozens of vendors. And when I entered the line, I couldn’t understand it.
At the beginning of the project, I almost made one note. I realized that to do exhibitions, you need to have amazing co-ordination, planning power, communication and mediation ability. You need to be responsive, tough, but to advance and retreat, and to be good at writing. Of course, there must be endless energy and brain power. And I, it seems that in addition to English is not bad, the other is nothing.
I can't get through the trial period. This is my only thought at the time. At that time, GM often called me to his hut and told me that XX customers complained to you again. I bowed and didn't know how to deal with such a martyrdom.
I was transferred and transferred to a new group, because the company dug a new AD, said to be one of the best cattle in the industry, so the company decided to put the burden of other groups into his group. At least, my colleagues say this.
I am so grateful to that grouping, it made me meet a very good leader, and two brothers I have become friends with.
AD's way of doing things is absolutely resolute. He has four or five big customers in his hand, and can take all their meetings and booths and participate in the bidding. His temper is very violent, but it is by no means biased against you, just because you can't keep up with his rhythm. He will assign all the work to the following AM and AE in a very organized way. He often tells us at the dinner table that we are a person on board, and now the whole company is watching whether this new group can complete this year's mission. We can't smash it first. In the group at that time, the atmosphere was unprecedentedly united, because the leader, he was very real.
We took a big project, a tens of thousands of people's party, every audience on the scene is a guest, that is the biggest project I have ever done, and we are busy in preparation for less than a month. There are two other AEs in the group, the age is similar to me, the biggest 80 years old. We were assigned their own jobs, but they needed to coordinate with each other, so we gradually became acquainted with them. They had been in the company for one year and the other was newer than me. Therefore, the "old" people with new people, we were pressured to breathe, but struggled every day to and from the company, customers, factories, venues, and did not return home, many days, no.
I still remember the night before the party. We moved to the hotel near the venue. After 8 months, I once again stayed back to the five-star hotel, but I didn't have the pleasure of so-called "enjoyment" at that time. Take off the scent for a few days, take a shower, and then go directly to the meeting, where the construction continues, gifts and part-time jobs are not in place, I have to go to the field. I still remember the first two days, I was on a business trip, lived in Shangri-La, met a classmate on MSN, and asked me, which cool? I am going back to Fuzhou, Shangri-La. He said, cool. I said, cool, it’s a place to sleep, I don’t know if I can sleep every day. that is it.
I now believe in one sentence, the seedlings can't help, but the seedlings are absolutely OK. The pressures faced at that time were not expressible in words. To give a simple example, the names of tens of thousands of invited guests must be confirmed and printed as a table sign. At the same time, it is necessary to confirm the flight and check-in information of foreign guests. This is enough to be crazy, as an invited guest. On the table, their name must not have a letter error. Of course, the guest list of the customer is always changing. Before the party starts, who knows which guests will not come temporarily, or want to come temporarily? And this is just one of the most inconspicuous parts of the whole party - the work that the guests invited to undertake. Fortunately, the person in charge of this work is not me. In fact, I still think so now. Under such pressure, I learned how to handle the behind-the-scenes process of a real party and frantically wanted to put these in my memory. Absorbingggg...
At the end of the party, we didn't even have the strength to cry. The customers came up to thank us, shook hands and laughed. Then we sat on the ground and watched the construction workers leave the field. I will never forget the way the leader was standing in a daze.
After this battle, I gradually entered the line, and slowly I was able to do some small projects independently. It seems that I have not received any complaints. No longer nervous and timid in front of customers, dare to discuss and entertain them with them, eat and drink, and learn to bargain with the vendors, eat the card... I gradually got rid of the moonlight and started to send money to the family, and Start thinking about buying a house and buying a car.
Later, three AEs were worshipped, 80, 81 and 82 years old. I am the third child. The feelings of suffering are true. We work together on large projects, and small projects that are solely responsible for providing help without reservation. I am very fortunate to this day. The things that this job brings to me are not just for me to grow up quickly, but also for being able to bring you in any other job. Until now, I have a small job of more than 300,000 in the current company, and I sent it to the "big brother". He actually made a beautiful job for the customer. He stared in Chengdu for 3 weeks. He is now AM, with the pressure from the company side, the company thinks that he has a one or two million live, and it is unreasonable to sneak into a project of more than 300,000. But he said, because that is what I sent to him, he must give me a good job...
Basically, my experience is here. In the middle of this year, a headhunter called me and asked me to go to my current company because there was a vacancy in eventmanager, with a monthly salary of 16,000, and I could bring a team of 4 people. In fact, after three years of graduating, the call to the headhunter is already a routine, and most of them will be politely rejected. But that phone is different, because I have worked with this company several times during the exhibition company, and maybe the top 1 in the world among similar companies. At least my colleagues and I still think so. As the party I used to be in the exhibition company, I always wanted to go, and even became a dream of mine, because he can let me touch the decision-making level of the higher-level buildings and market departments in the industry. So in order to realize this dream, I quit, although I have changed a lot of work, but in the true sense, the bright and big job, this is the only time.
The house began to be renovated in the spring, and now it has been in the house for more than two months, and is still paying the mortgage. The car has been bought for almost a year, not running much, more than 21,000 kilometers. I just had maintenance last month. I like off-road vehicles, but I can't burn oil. So I bought a small RAV4, double door, not practical. Go out to play purely when the weekend is free.
I have a new girlfriend. When I was at the most tired of the exhibition company, she stayed with me. Like a child, I always wanted to protect her. It didn’t last long, only a year and a half, in the future. ……do not know……
Many people now say that I am jealous. I think that is self-confidence. This self-confidence is a towering tree that has been re-emerged after frustration and pressure, and will not be easily destroyed. Some people say that I am sunny, the sun is because I am fearless, even if I face the big problem, I dare to smile and tell the customer, no problem, give it to me to solve. Real things.
I am grateful for the time that I can't bear to look back, even though I still don't want to mention it now.
Edited: Yes, on the road of life, there is no wind and rain, no rainbow, no struggle in the past, there will be no feeling of success. Today's college students, of course, I am also one of them, will be a beautiful future in school, design their own beautiful blueprints, but in the community, bumpy everywhere, how to climb out from the tough, go to Kangzhuang Avenue. It is really impossible to have no strong perseverance and patience. After reading it, I was very happy. The author’s experience is not a legend. It is just that every new human being who comes out of the ivory tower must face, experience, and enjoy it. Dear friends, there will always be bread, love will come, and the world after 80 belongs to us - after 80!