Poverty thinking

I have a college classmate. When I first met her, I just thought that her character is very good. She will take care of people and not lose her temper. The key is to stay calm. After in-depth interaction, she told me: "Actually, my character is good. The main reason is that I am inferior. I am afraid of offending someone. Therefore, I can only be good for everyone." I asked: "You study so well, why do you feel inferior? "She is embarrassed to say: "My family is very poor. The money I go to college is borrowed. I can't eat well, I don't wear it well, especially at the university. I see so many bright and beautiful people, I feel very humble. "Also, almost everyone in the school has a laptop, and most people already have a smart phone. And she, without a computer or a mobile phone, the only way she can communicate with the outside world is to hear." The advantage of this is that she can devote herself to learning, and her grades are quite good, with a national scholarship every year. The first time I heard her receiving the scholarship message, I was more happy than her. I secretly thought that she could use the money to buy a normal computer or buy a smart phone so that she could go online to learn about the outside world. The world is big. But the result is that a year has passed and she has not bought anything.

One day, I asked her: "How is your scholarship spent?" She said with amazement: "How do you spend it? It’s too late to pay back the bill. In addition to tuition, my parents used to borrow money." Think about it too, the taste of owing money is not good, it is also a good plan to return. When the scholarship was issued in the second year, her life still hasn't changed. I can't help myself. I asked her how to spend money. She said with pride: "My brother is married, buying a house is short of money, I put 10,000. I have given him more money." I said with anger: "If your brother doesn't have your 10,000 yuan, can't you afford to buy a house?" She said: "Of course I can afford it, but I have to borrow someone else's. I have money, I will give it to him first, and I don't have to pay it back." When I sent the scholarship in the third year, I didn't ask her again.

In the year of her senior year, she decided to take a postgraduate degree. Excellent results and no other skills, it seems that only the postgraduate road. Postgraduate study needs to buy the real question of the school, because the school's confidential work is done better, so the online test questions are not many and incomplete, can be bought through some counseling institutions, but the price is much more expensive. She frowned and said to everyone she saw: "What to do? The real questions can't be found." Others advised her: "It takes two or three hundred dollars to buy one, and saves more." Every time she said: "It's too expensive, I can't afford it." So, she spent more than a month, going to the school's electronic reading room every day, and looking for all the information. She felt that this was a very fulfilling thing, and saved two or three hundred dollars in one month!

At the end of the postgraduate entrance examination, her grades are on the verge and she can only wait for the retest. It is said that at this time, you have to keep an eye on the computer for a moment, rearrange the page to see if there is any new information. But she doesn't have a computer, it is very inconvenient. She can only go to the school room when she has time. On that day, the school had information on the adjustments within the school. The notice issued at 2 pm requires that the information be sent before four o'clock, which means that it must be completed within two hours. After I took a nap, when I woke up, I saw this message on the postgraduate website. It was already half past three. I called her. She said that she was not seen in the study room. Then, I gave her a phone call for admission, and let her report directly to the first name. What I didn’t expect was that the quota was full, even if the score was higher, because the time was late, it would not work. She cried darkly, complaining that the school gave too little time, but did not think that at that critical node, getting information in time is much more important than knowing a few more points.

Fortunately, because of the high scores, she has several good schools to adjust. She chose one in Beijing, but was brushed down during the interview. I said, you can try a few more, so many good schools can go, her first reaction is: "Going to Beijing, it took five or six hundred dollars, and it failed. The money is spent. The school, spent money, can't test it again?" What logic is this? In the face of the future and money, she is the first to consider money. At this time, she seems to have forgotten the one-year light night battle and the hard scores she got. At that time, I thought, maybe her desire to study is not so strong, and giving up is not necessarily a bad thing.

Before graduation, she was preparing to test her hometown teacher. When chatting, I said, "When the teacher is very good, you can reduce the burden on the family." She has always been steady, suddenly said: "Can I go to work while studying?" I was surprised to say: "You are since Then I want to study, why didn't I choose a school at that time? Or, you will stay in the school for half a year, and you will have to prepare for the exam. After work, how can you review the time?" She replied: "The school still has to spend money. When you are a teacher, you will have a salary. You can support yourself and then take a postgraduate exam." If you think about it, if you don't have money, you will be very embarrassed after graduation and spend money at home.

Then one day, her wallet was stolen. I asked, "Is your bank card in it?" she said. I casually asked: "Is there money?" She said: "Yes, but the thief should not be able to get it out." "Why?" "The five thousand dollars in the money, I keep it regularly, it is not easy to take it out." "I was petrified in an instant.

If 5,000 yuan is not kept on a regular basis, if 5,000 yuan can be spent, then it does not take a month to find information. If you use this month to prepare for the test, the score may be higher; you can go to a few more. The school retests, maybe, can go to a school that is better than the first choice; you can also do not have to ask for money at home, continue to prepare for the school for half a year, wholeheartedly, one success; of course, you can buy even a few hundred A smart phone with a block of money, rearranging the webpage, will not miss the adjustment information.

Our hometown evaluates such people as "poor and afraid." Because of poverty, so what is done is to consider the question of money first. As everyone knows, the more you think about money, the more you lose the opportunity to make more money.

There is also a good friend who is much poorer than her. The results are not as good as her. The scholarship is not as good as her, but he used all of this money to invest in himself. That year, he decided to take the Beijing Film Academy. He took all the money out and went to the "North Shadow" for a very expensive remedial class. He took the train to and from the school and Beijing a dozen times, and then took a test. Now, he has written a film review fee of at least a thousand. After one year, basically, he can have the remaining money to cover his family. Many people say that schools like "Northern Shadow" and "Chinese Opera" can only be used by rich children, but I am a very good friend who is very thorough. I am not afraid at all. I have completed myself by myself. Gorgeous turn around.

Poor people always love to talk about the unfairness of the world. In the final analysis, it is the result of their own choices. How to make the biggest achievements on a limited material basis is what we really want to think about, not just how to enrich material wealth. A wealthy person, if there is no broad pattern, will have a declining day. The size of the pattern largely determines how our life will go. It is the big skill to win more with less. Making money is much more important than saving money.